The cross definitely was not wonderful to Jesus, his followers, or the people of His day. We know Jesus did not look forward to the experience on the cross, but had to go into deep prayer three times before finally being convinced of His prayer, "Not my will, but thine be done." When Jesus was on the cross, His followers could not have been convinced of the wonderfulness of that cross, nor could the casual observer.
So when did the cross become wonderful? Only AFTER the resurrection and the realization came upon everyone regarding the role of the cross in salvation. Only after we understand the purpose behind the cross can we view the cross differently. It truly becomes wonderful to us when we experience salvation and trust Jesus' completed work on that cross to secure our salvation. Now, it is wonderful to us. Then, it was not. We rejoice in it now, but then it was considered a terrible mistake. Yet at all times the cross was the cross. It was only the view of it which changed.
How can this relate to our own experience in terms of the view we have towards our trials and difficulties? When we are going through an experience which we could define as a 'cross', can we have the faith in God that Jesus had and trustingly say, "Not my will, but thine be done?"
What is our viewpoint regarding the situation we are in? Is it going to be the same over time, or will we change our attitude towards our 'cross' when we view it in retrospect like we do the 'wonderful' cross Jesus died on?
If it is true that God knows the plans He has for us, that He works out everything in our life for good, that He has laid out a life of good works for us beforehand; then our 'cross' would be very similar to the wonderful cross of Jesus. At the present moment, our 'cross' would be difficult to describe as wonderful. Given the passage of time and God's revelation of his purpose (maybe after we die and it is revealed in heaven) for our 'cross', will that 'cross' also be a wonderful experience in the tapestry of our lives because of the way God used it in our lives or the lives of others?
My conclusion would be this: As difficult as the cross of Jesus was then, corresponds to how difficult some of our 'crosses' are now (not equating them, just showing their similarity). Also, the God who purposed the cross and Jesus death on it DOES work through our 'crosses' to bring about His will in our life and the lives of others. Those 'crosses' will be considered wonderful in retrospect as Jesus' cross is to us now!
Jesus' example of faith and resulting endurance of His cross serves to give us hope when we go through our 'crosses'. As you go through a difficult situation which you cannot find any purpose or reason for, consider the CROSS and that in retrospect we will all consider your experience to be 'wonderful' as we see how the God of the universe used that 'cross'!
Have faith, have hope, God will take something as terrible as the cross of Jesus and make it wonderful!!!!